Kexin Fang / MAAI
need to think of more activity that allow me to bring people of different generations together
highlight the stakeholder and learning, document the process with experts, like interview, their feedback, and try to highlight the learnings from the conversation that I had
Thinking about title
here is their seat arrangement in their family:
Laissez-faire type:
Pluralistic type:
Consensual type:
Protective type:
Reflection
From the previous research, it was found that Protective type and Laissez-faire type lacked communication, and during the discussion, I found that in these two type family, there is usually a seating arrangement at the dining table. Their seats are arranged according to the family seat, but this is unconscious
In the other two types：Consensual and Pluralistic, they rarely have fixed seats, and they do not arrange seats according to family status. They communicate more with their family members, less conflicts, and have a good relationship with family members.
So I think the seat arrangement and family status and rights hinder the communication between children and parents to some extent, and Communication will be affected by power. If I want to promote communication between different generations, I must first make them aware of this problem. So how can we make people aware of this problem? This will be my next intervention
Next step and ideas:
My previous interventions focused on how to reduce the conflict between different generations, but I found that communication is a long-term process，this problem cannot be changed in the short term. And I also found that if two people disagree, you can hardly expect a decent response from the other person. Normally, he will defend himself and try to lead your thinking and judgments astray. A few months later, when the old words are brought up again, you will find that no one has changed their minds, as if the previous argument has never happened.
So in the next intervention, I will first throw a question or point of view to the other person, let him think or study carefully, don’t worry about asking the answer, let him digest it in his mind first, and challenge his original concept. ( inspired by the book: The Skeptics’ Guide to the Universe)
I will design a dining table. This is not an ordinary dining table, but a dining table that can reflect the status of the family. I will place it downstairs in my house or in the park, so that people passing by can think about the meaning of the dining table, and interview their feelings. I will make the next intervention based on the feedback I get.
From my first intervention （friend’s experience on blind dates）, I found that many boys’ thinking is still very traditional, and a large part of it is influenced by their parents. We can see that there are big different concept between young generation and old generation, and traditional concept is still spread among the boys. Men’s and women’s thinking are still different, so why don’t girls? Is it because of the feminism in recent years? and the society’s requirements for women’s status are getting higher and higher? so I might consider adding feminism to my intervention.
From the last week, I looked for some what other medium exist and looked at example from around the world that what are other people doing, what other organisations doing. I did some research on jewellery brand, beauty brand and some TV reality show related to arrange marriages.
I found that some jewellery brands have gone from the initial concept of “diamonds are forever, a diamond will last forever, and a lifetime of happiness” to the present “couples in love may get married, or they may choose not to get married.” This means that although feminism and celibacy are on the rise. The De Beers report pointed out that although Chinese women’s purchase of diamond products at their own expense is on the rise, diamonds are still the most luxurious gift that Chinese women want to receive. On the one hand, they are willing to pay for their own pockets, and on the other hand they do not reject the multiple psychology of receiving diamond jewelry gifts. As the divorce rate increases, the lonely single society is likely to generate more demands for true love.
From the current point of view, some successful cases of brands are still more focused on the problem itself. For example, the “Marriage Market” short film launched by Japanese high-end skin care brand SK-II last year showed a new generation of Chinese women’s views on marriage and love, such as “I don’t want to get married for marriage, that would not be happy”, and detonated social media. In the process of constantly testing the water temperature, the commercial market has been quite tolerant of the values of women’s empowerment, “this will encourage brands to be more brave.”
I am also watching some dating TV show related to arranged marriages, like TOO HOT TOO HANDLE, LOVE TO BLIND, DATING AROUND, and some chinese dating reality show .
NEXT STEP:
do more research on academic resources can relate to what I am doing, use theories to construct my intervention.
look at example from around the world that what are other people doing what are organisations doing charities, and what other mediums exist.
To gain a industry knowledge of drama therapy online, I reached out to experts, Monique. She is a drama therapist and do a lot of stuff on drama therapy online.
Beneficial feedback I got started that: masks and costumes as a technique in the digital space, mask work is a staple of drama therapy work. As Jennings states, “some feelings can only be expressed through masks-feelings that are too anti-social, dangerous or depressing to be shown in other ways. Masks can contain the feelings that could not otherwise be expressed” (1990, ch.6, para.33). It is my belief that the online drama therapy space presents us with unique opportunities to not only work with masks, but to allow the client to see themselves in role with an immediacy that does not often happen in-person.
For my intervention 2, I will use mask as a technique, drawing their mood on the mask and invite people wear their mask to communicate with other people, but can’t speak, only rely on body language, this will last for 5 days, 10 mins a day. Finally, observe whether they rely on the face to have better communication.
DIGITAL STORYMAKING :
DRAMA THERAPY WITH DIFFERENT GENERATIONS ONLINE
RESEARCH QUESTION: How can bring understanding in views of marriage and love between different generations?
For this project, I found that there was a need for a way of communicating which allowed for a greater breadth of expression than could be conveyed through text and talk with each other face to face. In my journey to find suitable creative interventions, I drew inspiration from the approach I had developed as psychology, and based on the feedback I got from the stakeholder, I applied my drama therapy training to the field of digital media. I plan to use performance narratives, through interactive creation, actively explore the combination of drama therapy and digital media, and provide a way to express their feelings , communicate with each other and interact with others.
I had designed the framework of the technique to follow a trajectory that began with telling existing stories and ended with creating new stories.
FIRST STEP:
Recounting a story which collected from the people who has a problem on marriage and love (about blind date or marriage) Since some people unwilling to share their experience at the beginning, I collected some story in real life as a material that participant can use. If they want to share their experience, they can create a life map which illustrates important moments or events; the maps are then embellished with stories that were important in each of these stages of life.
SECOND STEP:
Reading the beginning of a story and creating one’s own ending
THIRD STEP:
Creating a new story The multiple platform would create a space in which participants work collaboratively to create their culture and have a sense of ownership of the outcome.
FOURTH STEP:
Share your visual story and your parents can edit it
SCHEDULE:
Consulting with experts (05/21 — 06/21)
The next step for my project is it consult with experts as my project tackles themes of how to applied drama therapy to the digital techniques.
Collect real story can be as a material in the step one (04/21 — 05/21)
Further engage with stakeholder (05/21 — 07/21) How to engage people in my idea and have them easily understand each other. Build, edit and share their visual story
Do some research on Shaping Networked Theatre (05/21 — 06/21)
DAFT
RESEARCH QUESTION:
How can bring understanding in views of marriage and love between different generations?
WHY:
China is clearly one of the world’s favorite countries for forced marriages. According to the “Survey Report on the Status of Forced Marriage in China” more than 70% of the respondents had the experience of being forced into marriage by their parents. The reason foe this phenomenon comes from their lack of communication, different growth background and different channels for receiving information.
HOW:
In my journey to find suitable creative interventions, I drew inspiration from the approach I had developed as psychology.
I found that drama therapy is a method to help them understand each other more. Drama therapy offer new ways to express what you are thinking or feeling in order to cope with problems. Here’s an example: if you are having conflict with your parents, you maybe asked to role-play a scene in which you pretend to be your parents and speak from their perspective. It is intended to help participants break them out of any rigid roles or frameworks they have been limiting themselves to. They can express themselves while sharing a new side to their personality and learn to look at problems from the other side’s perspective.
How to engage people in my idea and have them easily understand each other is the biggest obstacle I need to overcome, and I got some feedback from stakeholder:
To further my stakeholder engagement I had conversation with psychologist, I have came up with multimedia platform that is to be used as part of my project’s targeted intervention, which can provide engagement as well as communicative, and expressive opportunities for different generations. The platform can help create a multimedia story rich with complementary combination of text, still image, audio, and/or video that can be interactive and edited at any time. These steps are as follows:
WHAT IF
Parents and us are independent individuals, we can’t really change each other. My project aim to want to be understand each other better rather than proving that parents wrong in the views of marriage and love. After this project, they can understand each other more, and willing to communicate with each other, and accept the existence of different ideas. I am not against marriage, what I am against is the uniform criteria of happiness, like you have to get married at a certain age, if you don’t, you can’t be happy, you are a loser in life. I hope this project can reduce the conflict and young generations can have a say in the marriage.
based on the last feedback, I continue to develop my interactive video, and I collected some real example in the real life, because real people and real example are more convincing.
here is three example:
example 1:
name: yuhui huang age: 28 fashion designer she was forced by her parents to go on a blind date about five times, but she has not met a suitable person so far, and her parents said that she must marry this year, because they think 28 years old is old for women and the fortune teller said this year is her wedding year, and she is very troubled and does not know how to communicate with her parents. she think that It is impossible to meet the right person in this year, so she decided to move out instead living with her parents.
example 2:
name: waner chen age: 26 insurance She has a boyfriend, but her parents are dissatisfied with her boyfriend, because the fortune teller said that her boyfriend has many female friends, and he is likely to cheat after getting married, so her parents want her daughter to break up with her boyfriend . She is very entangled now. On the one hand, she likes her boyfriend, on the other hand, she doesn’t want to go against her parents’ meaning, and she is also a little superstitious in fortune telling.
example 3:
name: dasen age: 29 medicine He has a girlfriend, but his parents are not satisfied with his girlfriend because the fortune teller said that his girlfriend will bring bad luck to his family, but he insists on marrying his girlfriend. As a result, less than a month after the marriage, his father was diagnosed with leukemia and passed away two weeks later (his father was healthy and showed no signs of illness), and his father’s company also closed down.
and I also did some research on psychology, and I found that one therapy is drama therapy. Drama therapy takes a unique approach by using drama or theater techniques, including improvisation, role-playing and so on… Drama therapy combines drama and psychotherapy methods to offer new ways to express what you are thinking or feeling in order to cope more effectively with behavioral and emotional problems
It is intended to help participants explore their inner experience and break them out of any rigid roles or frameworks they have been limiting themselves to. They can express themselves while sharing a new side to their personality
drama therapy can also benefit participants by providing them with the opportunity to:
Express their feelings Tell their story Act out/work out issues and problems Achieve emotional and physical integration Experience catharsis Develop trust Work out relationship issues Strengthen or expand their personal life roles
Role-Playing
Role-playing allows the participant to alter their mindset, act out in new ways, and connect their own experiences to those of another person.
Here’s an example: if you’re having significant conflict with your parents, you may be asked to role-play a scene in which you pretend to be your parents and speak from their perspective.
I think it can help people explore their inner experience and break them out of any rigid roles or frameworks they have been limiting themselves to.
I think drama therapy can help young generation to communicate with their parents better, and learn to look at problems from the other side’s perspective.
NEXT STEP:
I will show these real example to people and get some feedback from them, What they think of these example?
I will combine these example with drama therapy. How to apply these real example to drama therapy? What techniques in drama therapy?
REFERENCE:
https://positivepsychology.com/drama-therapy/
https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-art-therapy-2795755
https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-drama-therapy-2610360
feedback from the first tutorial in project six
The process of discovering ‘The Change I Want to See’ took a personal shift in Project Five, from dating corner to generation gap.
After did some research on generational conflict and techniques that mediator use, I think the best conflict solution is the way of communication. Adjusting their communication style is a method to reduce conflict. I think they need a mediator, someone they respect, maybe a close family, friend or relative or online platform. Come from a place of wanting to be understand each other better rather than proving that parent wrong.
The medium of communication is very important. There are two mediums that I think are feasible.
The goal of conflict resolution therapy is to help all parties involved feel as if they have achieved a “win-win” scenario, but it is difficult to do, because parents and children have cognitive biases, my challenge is to challenge traditional attitude, the position of this project is to help the person being in a position to get married, make the right decision and to not be forced into making the wrong decision. And I found that there are not many platform to deal with the generation conflict, most of the platform focus on couple relationship, so it is also very difficult to make study case.
In order to guide the focus of my research further, the following three aspect that I think I should consider in this project in the future.
In relation to stakeholders, I initially identified 3 key stakeholder groups, the first being experts(dating agent) and the second being users(parents), the third being users(young generations). As my project has progressed, I have moved onto defining further to be government. Gaining stakeholder feedback is something I have struggled with on this project, I interviewed with the person who forced to blind date by her parents, and also interviewed with matchmaker who work in the dating corner, but received very little feedback. Consequently, stakeholder engagement is something I really need to extensively work on over the coming weeks.
According to the feedback I get, I will explore counselling and the techniques that counsellors use mediation and the techniques that mediators use when dealing with conflict and dealing with different groups to support my project.
After presenting my research for Project 5 – The Change I Want To See… in my tutorial, I have developed a series of next steps to take, as a result of analysing and reflecting on the feedback I received.
FEEDBACK
They are interested in people’s attitude for the difference in attitude. young people and parents whoever is a versatile narrative narrowed to their parents term of their view o love, what they think love is what, whether or not there is an overriding practical concern. Whether loving considered important at all, in regards to matchmaking, and it seems that the key person, or the key stakeholder or the key bridge in my project is the matchmaker, because they are the intermediary, that gets to speak to both parties. The two people who are being matched, it seems to me that my challenge is one to do with challenging traditional attitudes, there will be a group of people who may be value those more traditional more conservative, and then there will be those who freedom to choose for themselves, whatever path there is, but then I have this kind of societal barrier, and it’s gonna be interesting in terms of how to deal with unpacking.
They suggest that look at a specialism, that might help, and also explore counselling and the techniques that counsellors use mediation and the techniques that mediators use when dealing with conflict and dealing with different groups, Because I think from what you’re saying, the mediation element, or the Matchmaker is probably the most important person in all of this. I have the wishes of the of the LP, that want to get married on the other wishes parent, but the Matchmaker is key, because the method could be the person with the power to say to the parents, the thing is that whatever decisions the parents want to make, traditional, conservative values whatever is the people getting married that has consequences. So there is an argument that they are the most important people, because they have to live whatever decision is made. And if it’s the wrong decision, they are going to have to pay for it, emotionally, physically in terms of time and effort. So, it might be that my project is more about getting the parents and the older generation to understand the younger generation, maybe it’s more weighted in favour of the people who have to live with the decision.
This project has come from my focus I possibly should be helping married people or the person being in a position to get married, make the right decision and to not be forced into making the wrong decision. And the project is focused around that possibly understanding around that. Trying to get the people who are being pressured to understand the position that they already lived in, in terms of societal context that they’re in. Before to do something that will have a devastating impact on their lives, Potentially. I think I would possibly focus on the matchmaking element of it as possibly the ethical intermediary sort of decision making position as the person who speaks to both sides to help with that.
NEXT STEPS:
Area of interest
THE CONFLICT ON MARRIAGE AND LOVE VIEWS BETWEEN TWO GENERATION
Background research
WHO ARE MY STAKEHOLDER?
Introduction
Today in china, many people find themselves too busy to pursue romantic relationships on their own. This is a very worrying trend for their parents, so in order to combat this, some parents have decided to write down their children’s information and romantic requirements on pieces of paper and bring these pieces of paper to parks located through out China, in order to form an off-line personalised match making service with other children’s parents.
China is clearly one of the world’s favorite countries for forced marriages. According to the “Survey Report on the Status of Forced Marriage in China” released in 2016, more than 70% of the respondents had the experience of being forced into marriage by their parents. The rate of forced marriage among young people aged 25 to 35 is as high as 86%, and even 3% of young people are forced to marry by their parents before they reach the legal marriage age.
Outline the Question
Intervention
• do the experiment
—attend the dating corner (the same person but different salaries) and communicate with parents who in the dating corner and look at how parents react to high or low salary.
( video link: https://youtu.be/OFtrvsqYCHY)
Who are my stakeholder?
In aiming to distinguish who the stakeholders involved in the change I am looking to make are, I split my stakeholders into 2 categories. The first being ‘Experts’ in the arena of matchmaking in the marriage market. The second category being ‘User’ this is looking at the young people who are qualified to enter marriage or are about to enter marriage and parents who force their children to marry.