After I engaged with Pan Wang and talked with my friend about their views of marriage and love, I found that there are big different concept between young generation and old generation, and traditional concept is still spread among the boys. Although we are opposed to our parents looking for partners for us and do not like parental interference, we also unconsciously take the parents’ requirements as a condition for choosing a mate.
and I also found that if two people disagree, you can hardly expect a decent response from the other person. Normally, he will defend himself and try to lead your thinking and judgments astray. A few months later, when the old words are brought up again, you will find that no one has changed their minds, as if the previous argument has never happened. If you chat with someone on social media, you may never meet him, and you will never develop a real relationship, so you can just express your views concisely and then go to your own business. But if the person you are chatting with is your parents or wife or husband, it is completely different. You will be willing to spend many years slowly changing his point of view.
So in the next intervention, I will first throw a question or point of view to the other person, let him think or study carefully, don’t worry about asking the answer, let him digest it in his mind first, and challenge his original concept. ( inspired by the book: The Skeptics’ Guide to the Universe)
I will make an online workshop which stimulates to think about future interpersonal relationships (future family and future romantic relationship) through choose and make a ring. (Why ring: ring is a true sign of love for another individual, but what is the real meaning behind the ring, and what does its shape？）